during the ongoing avalanche of posts on Planet and on Debian mailing lists where you ask everyone to be friendly and considerate, you have so far:

• deliberately framed the discussion in a gender-oriented fashion to throw away unjustified accusations of sexism;
• inflated a 85-post long mudslinging thread with my name in the topic (which is the Google version of publicly throwing stones at people);
• vomited on people on an IT news site and helped the site spreading misinformation about the Project;
• shown your own frustration by trying to find hidden sexual references in messages you find offensive;
• and I’m probably missing a lot since I’m not reading all that crap.

Pretty please. What you mean is “Go fuck yourself”, but the way you are saying it is no more friendly and actually much more rude. If you meant “Go fuck yourself”, why not just say it?

• I would have felt better since it’s much less insulting.
• You would have felt better since it’s really a relief to say it frankly.
• Everyone else would have felt better since this would have ended the discussion instead of polluting the lists with useless wanking.

You are just lying to yourselves if you think your contributions to a flamewar are more friendly than others.

As for those starting discussions on the community and on the code of conduct: do you want a community like Ubuntu where everyone can be scornful and prepare lousy tricks, but always preserving the appearances (thanks to a mandatory broomstick), or a community like the Linux kernel, where people say frankly what they think, even if what they think is “I hope you were on crack while writing that” ? I know which one I choose. I may disagree with their technical development model, but at least they know that a software community is not a group of friends. And that is a sign of maturity.